©️ By Sophie Lewis | The Grooming Files | @sophielewiseditorial
The Porn Crisis
Groomed by porn. Fueled by shame. Spiralling into harm.
Not all predators hide. Some want to be seen. Not to confess, but to climax. To escalate. To break the silence in the most twisted way possible.
We’re witnessing something new. A generation of offenders shaped not just by trauma or opportunity, but by porn itself.
They’re not all part of networks. They’re not all violent. They don’t fit the “typical” paedophile profile.
But they are dangerous. And many of them are spiralling in plain sight.
Meet the pornified predator.
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Addicted to violent, degrading content
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Escalating in secrecy
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Compelled by shame, control, and arousal
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Some actively seek out exposure — fantasising about punishment, domination, and humiliation
We’re seeing it more and more:
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Men submitting explicit confessions to sting groups
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Sending self-incriminating evidence unprompted
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Requesting to be “outed,” “shamed,” or even “tracked”
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Confusing justice with fetish
This isn’t remorse. This is compulsion. And the system is nowhere near ready for it.
The psychology? Dark — but familiar.
This overlaps with known concepts like:
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Moral masochism – finding arousal in shame and punishment
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Control displacement – creating scenarios to force a loss of control
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Exposure fetishism – deriving power from being “outed”
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Porn-induced disinhibition – normalising violence or taboo
A 2025 case series analysis by The Grooming Files documented two self-confessed offenders who voluntarily submitted to exposure interviews. Both cited pornography as the origin point of their spiral — not just the content, but the shame it generated.
The loop is brutal:
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Watch porn
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Feel shame
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Escalate to taboo content
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Fantasise about being caught
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Send messages, test boundaries, confess
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If ignored — escalate again
And still, no one intervenes.
No safeguarding. No therapy. No system to catch this specific offender type.
Because they’re not recognised. Because they don’t fit the current model.
This isn’t just a new behaviour — it’s a new risk profile.
These men are:
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Often isolated
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Deep in shame loops
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Consuming porn that validates their darkest compulsions
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Hoping someone will stop them — but can’t stop themselves
And if they don’t get caught?
Some will offend. Some already have.
Why doesn’t the system intervene?
Because most safeguarding models rely on:
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Direct disclosures
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External accusations
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Convictions or referrals
But this new offender type discloses to no one who can help. They confess to strangers online. To exposure groups. To journalists.
Because that’s part of the fantasy.
What do we do with that?
We face it. We name it. And we treat it as a new frontier of prevention, not punishment.
This isn’t about sympathy. It’s about accuracy.
Because the longer we ignore it, the more shame-fuelled predators we let spiral out of reach and into real harm.
Up Next:
Part 6 – Systemic Silence
Why nothing is stopping this. Who profits. Who turns away. And why porn remains one of the most protected industries in the world.
