©️ By Sophie Lewis | The Grooming Files | @sophielewiseditorial
The Porn Crisis
*This isn’t curiosity. It’s *collapse.
They’re not exploring. They’re not experimenting. They’re not just “growing up in a digital world.”
They’re being raised by porn. And they’re mimicking what they see, without understanding any of it.
What we’re seeing in real time:
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Girls as young as 11 being blackmailed over nudes
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Boys choking partners by age 13 and calling it “normal”
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Kids filming sexual content of each other in school toilets
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Children mimicking violent porn before they even understand what sex is
In 2023, the NSPCC reported a sharp rise in sextortion cases involving children under 14. In multiple UK schools, girls reported being pressured to send “OnlyFans-style” content to classmates. In 2024, teachers raised alarm after a 12-year-old boy described “choking his girlfriend because he saw it online.”
This isn’t experimentation. It’s imitation. Desensitisation. Escalation.
Porn has replaced sex ed — and it’s teaching all the wrong lessons:
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Sex = performance
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Pleasure = pain
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Consent = silence
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Bodies = currency
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Boundaries = optional
Children are copying what they see online. And what they see is aggression. Domination. Fake orgasms. Choking. Humiliation. Silence.
Not love. Not trust. Not safety.
This is how a generation gets groomed — without anyone laying a hand.
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The algorithm shows them violent porn
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Shame keeps them from talking
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Peer culture turns abuse into content
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Sextortion locks them in silence
By the time they understand what’s happened, the damage is done:
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Trust issues
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Body hatred
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Sexual dysfunction
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Dissociation
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Grooming normalisation
And not one adult stopped it.
Schools aren’t protecting them.
They’re busy pushing ideology over reality.
Kids are taught to label themselves. But not to spot coercion. They can identify 10 sexual orientation… but can’t define enthusiastic consent.
They’re told how to express identity, but not how to protect it.
And the adults aren’t seeing it — until it’s too late.
Because this harm doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it smiles. Sometimes it posts. Sometimes it says nothing.
“I thought that’s what sex was.” “He said everyone does it.” “I didn’t know I could say no.” — Real quotes from teen girls in UK safeguarding interviews, 2024–25
This is the next generation, And they’re being broken from the inside out.
This is the fallout.
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Porn isn’t just harming children.
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It’s shaping them.
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It’s grooming their expectations, desires, and responses.
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And it’s doing it younger, faster, and more violently than ever.
We can’t pretend this is curiosity anymore. It’s crisis.
Up Next:
Part 8 – Reclaiming Sex, Rewiring Minds
What now? Is there a way back? This final chapter offers recovery, resistance, and the fight to take back what porn stole — from us, and from them.
